You will never be enough for someone who isn’t ready for someone like you. I have observed that it doesn’t really matter how well you love, give or do for someone who isn’t ready for someone like you, it will never be enough.
I went to the market last night and there is a manager there who is always happy and friendly. Even when it’s insanely busy and people are incredibly short, Bobby always has a kind word and a smile for everyone. So as he was helping me I asked him plainly…”what is the secret to life?” He said “To truly know yourself. You are in charge of what you allow someone to take from you. You accept how they treat you, to truly know yourself and your worth is the key”. I think I could have stayed in that line for another half hour receiving his wisdom. Everyone teaches us something, it’s up to us to receive and accept the knowledge. I accepted it….and went home clearer than I was when I arrived.
We are responsible for the energy we give away and the time and effort that is not reciprocated. We are responsible for how we allow people to treat us. A few things to consider:
- What is your worth?
- What are your values?
- Do you seek these values in the person you are dating or interested in? Do you seek them in the people you surround yourself with?
- What makes you happy?
- Do you settle for less than you deserve? Why?
- What qualities are important to you? Shouldn’t you seek friends or relationships with people who share the same qualities?
- What do you want for your future?
Its important not to waste people’s time or let them waste yours.
I wouldn’t change or take back the things in life that have happened to me, I would not be who I am or know the amazing people who add quality to my days. I know my worth, but the strange part is that I allow people in my life who don’t know or acknowledge it. I know what I want in friendships and a relationship. I can honestly say that the friendships I have now are good, strong friendships that have been in place as far back as 35 years. That says something to me…it says a lot.
Certain experiences have made me a little more guarded, lessons received. I know that some situations repeat themselves until you have had enough and choose change. At some point we will be vulnerable again with others and open ourselves to love and change and more importantly chance.
Chance, Change, Clarity and Certainty
Be mindful of how much of yourself you give to someone who you aren’t enough for…in the end it’s not you who isn’t enough. Some are just never satisfied.
Some of my favorite words “We only pass by this way once”.
So, Peace for you Saturday and for 2018